the movie that is.
I know, I know, it's a movie from last year... blah blah a long time ago, why am I just writing about it now.. blah blah.
Don't blame me, I just saw it on the plane coming back from Taiwan.
well, this isn't a review of the movie.
although, it might contain spoilers so if you haven't seen it but you're planning on seeing it, don't read this.
Go find it, watch it, and then come and read this.
Oh and this is really long so... errrrmmm, yea.
If you have the urge to comment with tldr please DONT. please. I'm asking nicely. I know my mentioning this is just asking for it. But seriously. PLEASE. You can just not comment or not read it or both! I don't know why I'm so insistent about this, this time... I normally don't even care... but I'm just in this kinda mood.
So..... onegaishimasu! -bows-
What I really wanna talk about, is love, true love, 'the one', destiny, and all that stuff.
well, not really.
I think I wanna talk about faithfulness in a relationship
well I think I wanna talk about how sexist society is
actually,
I think I just wanna complain about a some of the characters, situations and themes presented and portrayed in this movie. And how the more I thought about them, the more annoyed I got.
Lol.
Don't get me wrong, I actually liked the movie. I enjoyed watching it. If it came on, on TV, I'd sit down and watch it if I had nothing else to do. It was pretty cute in some parts, it had some good humour, funny situations, good lines, reasonable character development, likeable characters(even though they were kind of like typical stock characters, ie. Ryan Gosling's character: the hot, smooth rich womanizer who is actually lonely and damaged), it was a bit predictable but let's face it, which romantic comedy isn't?
Oh and another thing I have to mention (and i apologize for this in advance)
RYAN GOSLING'S ABS. WTF. Ahem. I'm not ususally the type to be all like "OMFG LOOK AT THAT TOTALLY HOT GUY AND HIS ABS OMFG" -squeal- -giggle- but like, wtf man. it was like
I actually used a meme. oh god.
aaaaaaaanyway, not to get sidetracked, the movie is basically about a middle aged man called Cal (played by Steve Carell) who married his high school sweetheart but all the spark has gone out of their marriage (god, that was a badly constructed sentence).
So one day out of the blue, his wife (whose name is Emily) tells him she slept with someone else and that she wants a divorce. So they get divorced and Cal meets Jacob (Ryan Gosling) who teaches him how to pick up chicks.
simple. And so the plot develops from there. Oh, this is one of those movies with the seemingly seperate plotlines that are all eventually interwoven. But that's irrelevant to me (for the sake of this post)
So one thing that pissed me off about this movie was how the wife acted.
Seriously! She was the one who cheated on him in the first place!
what right does she have to get all pissed off when she finds out that he slept with other women?
they weren't even married anymore!
And okay, so she regretted her actions, was sorry, etc BUT HER EXCUSE WAS THAT SHE WAS GOING THROUGH A MID-LIFE CRISIS? Jeez.What a bitch.
Furthermore, she didn't even try to do anything to FIX their marriage! What, she felt guilty? Confused? Miserable? Unsure of how to express herself? Felt that she had no right to say or do anything? It wasn't "Oh I feel terrible, I miss my husband, maybe I should try to fix things. it was OH HE'S SLEEPING WITH OTHER WOMEN! I HAVE ALL THIS ANGER AND PRIDE (which she should totally not have considering she was the one who betrayed her husband) I'M GOING TO DATE THE GUY I CHEATED ON MY HUSBAND WITH, EVEN THOUGH I DON'T REALLY WANT TO."
has it occurred to her that maybe he was just doing all this because he's miserable without you?
She was pretty much just self righteous and self-pitying.
And SELFISH.
SO like, near the end of the film Cal was all like "I should have fought for you blah blah" or something to that effect.
WHY? Why did he have to do it while she did nothing?
because he's the male? he has to chase the girl? to win her back? to keep the romance alive in their marriage? That's so sexist!
I don't have that much experience in relationships, but I'm pretty sure it's a two way thing.
The movie characterizes Cal as this really romantic guy who believes in true love etc. So it can basically be read as him being more emotionally invested in the relationship so he has to be the one to fix it, no matter who was at fault. It's condemning people who are like him! Basically saying "weeeeellllllllllll it can't be helped that this is your disposition, you only have yourself to blame"
Last thing (i think) is the whole part after the climax and before the resolution. So basically the part leading up to the resolution when Cal is alone, isolated, sad and everyone's pissed off at him. Why????
why?? why???? He didn't deserve any of that! Why did he deserve to be punished?
They made it seem like he was just being stubborn! And that it was his own fault that things turned out the way they did! If only he hadn't agreed to the divorce that his wife wanted! Of course it's his responsibility to fight for their marriage! =="
Yes, I know it's just a movie. There's no need to be patronizing.
BUT STILL.
There are people like this! This world is huge and whatever can be imagined can and probably does exist and happen.
Also, this movie is MAKING LIGHT OF BEING UNFAITHFUL IN A MARRIAGE! It's like they're saying "Oh don't worry! If your husband loves you enough, he'll forgive you!'
WELL HE SHOULDN'T. Unless you work really really hard to rebuild your marriage (and even then, I'm not so sure but that's just my personal opinion) WHICH EMILY CERTAINLY DIDN'T DO.
And another problem with this movie is that all the girls who watch it will be like "AWWWW SO THAT'S WHAT TRUE LOVE IS LIKE! HE'LL LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO AND HE'LL ALWAYS FORGIVE YOU AND TRY TO WIN YOU BACK"
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no. just no.
Lol after writing all this, maybe i don't like the movie that much. lol.
but.
My point was my disapproval of people's attitudes I'm not just getting worked up over some silly movie.
sigh
Maybe I just think too much.
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